Thirty-Third Sunday in Ordinary Time
A wife is a virtue to her husband:
I have chosen to dwell on the first reading of this Thirty – Third Sunday in Ordinary Time for our reflection this Sunday because the “Theme” of the message is very important - Wife. The book of proverb tells us that “When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls. Her husband, entrusting his heart to her, has an unfailing prize.” I’m curious to imagine how some in our interesting world and society today will respond or interpret this beautiful message? The author perfectly captures a wife from a divine perspective; from how God positioned her in the beginning. He places her above anything that is precious. In short, from the writing it seems that wife cannot be compared with anything man can define? This is why he says that a wife is beyond pearls and is priceless. He continues, “She brings him good, and not evil, all the days of her life. She obtains wool and flax and works with loving hands.” I, therefore, suggest that after man has toiled for part of his life and he leaves his Father and Mother, as the book of Genesis teaches us, and goes to live with his wife, together they begin a family life, which eventually will be brought to fulfilment by his wife - who brings him good through her child rearing and support in his life. A wife is honored by the title: mother of her home. A wife’s presence in the family or life of a man epitomizes love, beauty of heart, humbleness and kindness. From her, her husband and children learn those beautiful virtues she has been endowed with. At this juncture, I need to acknowledge that there may be some in our society who may challenge this reading? Some may be tempted to reduce it to an old story, which was taken from the patriarchal custom and culture of old age. But, before one thinks in this way, I suggest that we look at this reading from the wisdom that is hidden within it. What could be more gratifying in this world than for one to be seen as the best above all bests. Our Blessed Mother is a perfect spouse to Joseph, and She is recognized as the best of all creatures by God, still She was a wife and a Mother. This perspective is a better way to look at this reading than the deceptive thought that feminism always rushes to whenever the beautiful role of women is invoked. Again, the Author says, referring to a wife, “She puts her hands to the distaff, and her fingers ply the spindle. She reaches out her hands to the poor, and extends her arms to the needy.” A wife teaches her husband and children the act of charity. We know who has the checkbook in our families right? Finally, the Author warns, “Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her a reward for her labors, and let her works praise her at the city gates.” My dear sisters, a wife who does not dismiss these virtues stands out in the society and in our world. Her good character precedes her; she does not fear the thoughts of the evil ones or the gossipers because before God, her family and society, she has done her best to live up to the recommendations that the book of Proverbs prescribes. To be a good wife should be at the heart and desire of every woman.